Thursday, November 20, 2008

Why I do this: going public?

Why do I blog? It started simply enough, I wanted to chronicle our adoption journey. I had started a long-hand journal, at the suggestion of our SW. But after a while, I didn't like the format of just writing open letters to Sam, and I certainly didn't like the long-hand writing. At the same time, I had joined an on-line "support group" of sorts for families in my adoption agency's ETH program. Many of the families had blogs so I started reading them and thought "I could do this." I thought it would be easier to invite friends and family members to view a blog than to send an email update about the adoption once a month.
So -- I started a blog. I found blogging to be very cathartic, very healing. There is a lot of pain and depression involved in infertility and international adoption, and I could move through those emotions in a safe environment. I loved to have friends comment on my posts. I loved to add pictures and keep an ongoing dialog. I loved that I didn't have to always blog about the baby, that I could blog about whatever I wanted to.
But then, some people at work (I still don't know how they got the address) made some negative comments and it was suggested I go private so as not to ruffle feathers. I HATED that. It wasn't fair. It was MY blog and I should be able to say whatever I wanted without fear that some secretary at work would report to a partner I just posted a blog entry at 3:47 pm while I should have been working. I mean, seriously - -get your own life instead of observing and then reporting on mine!
But I went private. Now, I must say that going private has also been very freeing. I never would have talked about Gregg's unemployment on a public blog. At least I don't think I would have. That being said, I have also seen my burgeoning blog as a PSA for international adoption. I thought it was really cool that someone could google Ethiopian adoption and could find my blog. Now, I realize it would be about item 12943 on any search engine, but still...it's the priciple of the thing, right?
Now that I am getting more free and writing more often, I want to go public again. I hate that my friends have to specifically click on my blog to find updates, as opposed to using a google blog ticker. I hate that others cannot find my blog from other blog favorites.
So the question is -- how do I go back public. The answer, I believe, is to get my own blog page. Not on blogger, but something like www.3dezuttis.com. I have a friend who is a computer geek and could do this for me, while incorporated my blog entries-to-date so I don't loose any data.
I'm also going to use Blurb to have my blog edited and "published" into a book every 6 months or so. I like the thought of a concrete book to page through.
Of course, before I do that, my mom says I have to go through each post and do spell check. I know, my spelling is atrocious! What can I say?, I am a child of spellcheck, not dictionaries.

6 comments:

Missy said...

People are so darn annoying, right?! Well, maybe not ALL people, but you know what I mean!! Keep me posted on your blog status!! You know I'm a faithful reader....

gigglechirp said...

A couple other ideas: take the time stamp off of your posts and/or also just set up any posts to post at a time that is not during normal work hours to avoid co-worker crazies gettin' panties in knots.

Sandi said...

I was going to suggest the same thing as Mamush's mom, I would just edit my timestamp. I make posts weeks ahead sometimes, especially those long birthday ones.

Meg said...

So exciting! I'm definitely going to look into that.

Amanda said...

I've been thinking about going public again too. The purpose of me going private was so that I could post pictures of the babies once we passed court, but, we haven't.
And, also-I don't like that I can't be found on a search engine. I love meeting people in the ETH adoption world and if they're not through CHI, that's exactly how I meet them.

We shall see.
hmm....

Annie said...

Another idea is to make your blog on wordpress which I tried but I just couldn't figure out ;) What's nice about it is that you can keep posts open or password protected. you can go back and forth; that way you can have an open blog, but if you want to write about more private things you can password protect it with all of your close friends having the password.

I sometimes wish my blogs were still open BUT when I found out that one of my friends' co-workers (who I do not know at all) printed off maya's photos and kept them at her desk, I really was CREEPED out.